As mothers, I’m sure we are all struggling with the mother’s guilt. Most likely, we face this infamous and persistent beast every day. No matter how much we do, we feel that she is Never enough. We don’t give ourselves enough credit and often question whether we are “good enough” mothers. But in this emotional TikTok tailored for moms struggling with mom guilt, I think we can all find some solace and comfort to help us be a little more at ease with ourselves.
I advise you to grab your tissues and get ready for the hydraulics before pressing play – because this one is going to hit you hardmommy.
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Anna Mellor, the TikToker behind @mellorlite, recently posted her reaction to a message from a children’s teacher. The message begins by saying, “As I look around my classroom, I can’t tell who crawled first, who walked first, or spoke in sentences at 15 months. I can’t tell if their parents breastfed or bottle-fed.”
Wait… pause. we are not crying you are 🤧. But actually, tears are literally streaming down my face right now – and are probably streaming down yours as you listen to this. Because just in the first few sentences, we are reminded of how much pressure we so we often put it on ourselves and our children.
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The message goes on to say, “You know what I can say when I look at my children? I can tell which families value kindness and good manners in their home. I can tell when a child feels loved and safe at home (and at the school they unfortunately not everyone’s school experience)”
“I can hear how you speak to your children by the way they speak to others. When I look at my little friends, I don’t see their milestones, I see who they are: their heart, their actions, their inner voice, their struggles and triumphs, and I see you; and all the love you pour out on them.”
I feel like such a heavy weight has been lifted off my shoulders just watching this TikTok. Because the mother’s guilt is very real. She is consuming. It’s comprehensive. And so often it holds us back that we can’t even get rid of it.
But I think this message is the guarantee that Many moms need on a daily basis. Because we’re all just doing the best we can every day. And sometimes our best doesn’t look like our child reading at two or walking at 15 months. Sometimes our best doesn’t feel like preparing a home-cooked meal for our kids every night instead of eating out. Sometimes our best doesn’t look like our kids perfectly knowing their ABCs or 123s.
But it seems to teach them that they are loved. It seems to teach them to love and accept others. He seems to be patient with them and helps them learn, even if they don’t get it right the first time. Our best seems to raise our children in the best possible way.
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Therefore, this message is a reminder to alleviate the mother’s guilt. It is a reminder that letting go of the mother’s guilt is not easy, but totally required. Because comparison is the thief of all joy – and moms often get stuck in its vicious cycle.
A huge thank you to whoever wrote this message, because it is one that all mom really needs it. And I can tell why the comment sections were inundated with mothers thrilled at the sentiment of this message.
Where can I find it to print and put on the wall? I need this as a daily reminder.
OK. It’s just something in my eye. I’m not ABSOLUTELY STUPID in line at school.
My daughter’s teacher told me she’s not the best reader, but she’s the first to go sit with the lonely child or befriend the “different” child 🥺 Proud mom.
With all my soul, thank you.
Source : www.mother.ly